A Zen dad is not a pushover or soft, just because we, as men or fathers, tap into this softer side of ourselves, this more relaxed, calm, chill, piece of ourselves does not mean that we are soft or a pushover. Contrary to what you may or may not have heard. I know when I was growing up, I was always taught that, you know, man up, deal with it, that's what men do. And what I'm saying is that when we're a Zen dad, we are not soft. We are not pushovers. We can still be strong, independent leaders and have this Zen lifestyle.